Okay, so I'm turning into the girl who "cried" wolf. Just about anything sets me off these days, and when something's really wrong...no one's going to believe me!
Why am I crying this morning? Well, I just dropped Abbie off at school. As she hopped out of the car, a swarm of girls came running toward her calling, "Abbie, Abbie!" They all hugged her, then one of the girls took her hand, and they all went running off. Half of these girls I didn't even recognize...some of them even looked a lot older than her. I immediately started crying. It's not fair that she has to leave her friends...again. How many times can we ask her to do this before she starts resenting us for it?
I was born and raised in the same house. I grew up with the same group of friends through elementary, jr. high, and high school. Abbie will go to 5 different schools in 5 years! It's not fair! It's not fair for her, and it's not fair of us. I think it upsets me more than her. She doesn't know anything different...we've moved around her whole life. It's just so sad each time she says goodbye to a new set of friends. I have to keep telling myself this will make us all stronger...right?
good things...
1. lifelong friends
2. challenges
3. little girls
5 comments:
sue-this makes me want to cry with you. you're right though, this is harder on you than it is her. she will learn a valuable lesson in life, she'll always be able to make friends easily (it's obvious kids love her) and will also have that compasionate heart towards the "new kid" in school because she knows how it feels.
Kids are so resilient! but your tears are understood...I find that I'm always wanting my kids to experience all of my same happy childhood moments.
Where are you guys moving?
Oh Sue I feel so sad for you. Its like Christmas each year is the best Christmas ever for a child because the year before , even though they said it was the best then, couldn't have possibly been better than this. She will remember the important things and keep them as good memories and remember the feeling she has with her family. Then in time she will be so happy because that is who she is and she can't imagine being happier than she is that day. Moving is really hard but think to her Birthday and how happy she was with everyone around now she can have every holiday with everyone around, she will be Okay...just give her lots and lots of kisses that cures all...right?
PS I'm glad my kids don't have my same childhood moments :) EEEK
Like yourself, I also grew up in the same house/area my whole life. Like LL said, they are resillient and it will make her stronger.
You are such a cute mom. I have enjoyed reading your last few posts. Very fun. Love the pictures from Frisco! That is my favorite place!
Good luck with your move!
Have a great day!
Hi, Sue, this is Heidi Higley, Holly Heywood's sister...I moved out of Fallon 2 about 2 1/2 years ago. I know many great things about you...I wish our paths could have crossed a little more directly!
I just wanted to give you all of the positives of moving around a lot from another Navy Brat's perspective:
1. She will have a great appreciation for family...they are the friends that move with you and stick by you...no matter what.
2. She will have a love for all kinds of people and an increased ability to see the other person's perspective.
3. She will change and adapt more easily to all of the curveballs life will inevitably throw her.
4. She might just develop a desire to "see the world"...isn't that how the Navy gets you to sign up?!
5. She will learn from her dad's example patriotism and service...two qualities that seem hard to find in our world sometimes.
6. She might just grow up wanting to give her kids the same opportunities for change and growth that her good parents gave her growing up!
She will be fine...and so will you! You really will be stronger for all of this. I feel so blessed to be the daughter of a Navy man, to have had all of the amazing opportunities that our military life provided. Your sweet girl will be grateful, too!
Hope you don't mind my barging in on your blog...your entry really stirred up memories for me and I do want you to know that we turn out okay, us Navy kids!
I got choked up picturing your experience this morning. However: With modern technology of e-mail, blogs, and cheap long distant phone calls, Abbie has nothing to worry about. Kristin moved around a lot, too- and look at how well rounded she turned out! It makes us closer to our families, and I think I am more outgoing/sensitive to other people (new neighbors, church members) because of all of our moves. I see my elementary school friends and wonder what it would've been like to have lived in one spot and had stronger relationships with them and their friends, but then I look at the dozens of other people I met move after move later, and I am grateful for those experiences. Guess we all appreciate what we've had and don't really know any different! You are an awesome mom!
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